This Is What “Gender Abolition” Looks Like.

31 Jul


I’ve said it before and I say it again: if there was a movement that actually seemed earnestly devoted to the abolition of gender, you couldn’t possibly sign me up fast enough. That gender-crits reframe tolerance and respect for the existence and experience of trans individuals as somehow being “pro-gender” is ludicrous. I, for one, have absolutely zero devotion or loyalty or wish to advocate for the hierarchal structure of gendered social roles, expectations, and behaviors that degrade all women and see women like me as below garbage for somehow “eschewing” some sort of birthright by not being a heterosexual conforming man.

But in practice by it’s proponents, “Gender Abolition” is a buzzword, not unlike “War On Terror” or “War On Drugs”… an lofty claim with no clear plan and more often than not used as an excuse to rationalize shitty behavior they were gonna do anyway. You don’t even have to take my word for it, they’re perfectly capable of making their actual motivations clear.


But then, this is the Gender Abolitionist/”gender critical” movement, the “radical” movement where lived experience is meaningless and all the “facts” are sourced from FOX News. Where sensible shoes will alleviate gender dysphoria and overthrow compulsive heteronormativity and toxic hegemonic masculinity forever.

Where literally the most homophobic organization in existence is considered “pro-woman” simply by virtue of their mutual hatred of trans women.

gendercrit15Thank god the TERFs are so willing to stand up for the poor, oppressed WBC

Where a “male-born” (their term, not mine) can joke about throwing a “female-born” (their term, not mine) person in a volcano (a form of human sacrifice that claimed the lives of hundreds of women), and it’s a-ok because the “female-born” person is trans.


Where literally the only original commentary a supposedly “pro-woman” site had to the Eliot Rodger shootings was to make it all about trans women somehow.


Where “TERF is a slur”, but “f*g” and “wh*re” not so much.

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Where sexualized violence and threats of disclosure against us are literally treated as a joke:

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Where folks display a laughably disjointed historical perspective:


Where pedophiles can be considered “pro-woman” somehow because of mutual hatred of trans women:


Where the ideology and positions on gender transition and identity are functionally identical to that of the Southern Baptist Convention:


Where they coyly claim that their stated desire to “mandate us out of existence” is simply a turn of phrase, and then openly discuss how they will literally mandate us out of existence:


Where questioning the assumption that you are some sort of unnatural rape monster with interests inherently at odds with other sexual assault survivors, means your own status as a survivor is deliberately erased because you didn’t live up to their specifications:


Speaking of detransition, I’ve already been there, and managed to snap out of it before it killed me. So, of course I should go back and do it again because you say so:


Where they preach all day about this imaginary “pressure to transition” that gender-non-conforming gay folk experience from the trans community, when in reality the opposite happens:


Where they supposedly speak for “every woman”, even the women that go out of their way to make it clear they don’t speak for them. Give it a rest, Whitney.


Because ultimately what it comes down to is that You Are What They Say You Are:


8 Responses to “This Is What “Gender Abolition” Looks Like.”

  1. giliell July 31, 2014 at 3:31 am #

    They “destroy gender” by neatly putting everybody into a clearly labelled box. Only that those they put into the “female” box must stop doing all that female-coded stuff and those they put into the “male” box must be explicitely forbidden to do those things, under threat of violence.
    Simone de Beauvoir was wonderful and kick-ass, but ffs, she isn’t Jesus setting the rules for the kingdom of past-patriarchy. Sex isn’t something clear, natural and unchangable.

  2. Angelica July 31, 2014 at 7:29 am #

    women are *not* defined by having a female sexual orifice at birth. No, real women are “with men”: A complementary gender that loves and supports our men, not a competing one, that opposes and resents them. Being trans to me means having a healthy feminine mind in a healthy male body. To butch dykes it means having a healthy masculine mind in a healthy female body. Whether we wish to align those surgically to become cis gender is our body, our life our choice. None the less gender is REAL.

    • Danah Gaz June 13, 2015 at 10:25 pm #

      Oh look, the MRA in a dress.

      • Angelica June 13, 2015 at 10:35 pm #

        Actually, I am a trans woman who supports human rights for men and boys as well as for women and girls and for everyone in between… and you are what? A TERF male wannabe in trousers?

  3. Alex King July 31, 2014 at 3:23 pm #

    This literally hurts my heart to read. I don’t understand how people can be so hateful, especially to people they’ve never even met. It’s so easy to project one’s own feelings onto the rest of the world – that’s all we experience inside out own little reality tunnels – but the fact is, that’s the easy way out. It’s very difficult to be vulnerable and make relationships, open up and start to understand the struggles of those around you. Bigotry like what is shown in the anti-gay, anti-choice “communities” can be attributed to uncultured human beings. And ones that are too lazy and afraid to experience other peoples’ realities. And that’s so sickeningly sad.

    These people lobby for non-social issues as well. They’re in our governments making decisions regarding Gaza, nuclear arms, country alliances, tax breaks and fund allocation. If something as fundamental as empathy for a fellow human being who happens to be /different/ than you is an attribute they lack… Well, what does that say about the state of our union?


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